Comments on Seduction Central: Do Pisceans want what they cannot have?

I'm a fem-fish and this describes me almost to a T...

2008-08-24T19:21:00.000-04:00

I'm a fem-fish and this describes me almost to a T, though I always attributed this behavior to my aries moon, or Uranus being on my 5th house, or... anything else but the Pisces sun. Now I know exactly what do blame I guess, haha.

PICSEAN GIRL WTH leo moon aries in my venus and sc...

2008-07-31T03:53:00.000-04:00

PICSEAN GIRL WTH leo moon aries in my venus and scorpio in my first house . What does it mean? I find myself hopelessly in love with an aries with thier moon in Taurus, thier venus in aries and thier moon in aries. They have hurt me so badly but to tell them to fuck off would hurt them. the more they try to make it better the more it is pissing me off and repulsing me, simultaneously I want nothing more that to feel them holding me and on top of me . I feel like I have to be mean to them to get the attention I need, otherwise when I call them pay attention they run, will it always be like this? the only saving grace is the moment that i am repulsed to the point of not wanting to speak with them then they are back again. I want them so badly. Why WHYWHYWHY WHY!!! can't we just be nice to each other I hate being mean! If Im not mean it could be months before they pay attention to me.

Piscean girl here with Venus in Aries and Libra mi...

2008-07-31T01:41:00.000-04:00

Piscean girl here with Venus in Aries and Libra mid heaven ... they just keep shipwrecking themselves pathetically on my shores, or sinking in my ocean. It does make a nice change from the agony of wanting someone so bad and knowing that I only want them to not want me. Masochism! It used to be worse -the longing and then the pouncing and the almost instant rejection of them, then getting abused for being a tease or setting out to hurt.

Fishfish, you are so right! Well my pisces man and...

2008-07-07T23:13:00.000-04:00

Fishfish, you are so right! Well my pisces man and I have started talking again, its just like the old times again. You are right, noone can pressure them in any decision. I was pressuring him on myself and the kids moving up there to where he lives, and putting alot of pressure on him getting a stable job. Well, since we stopped talking,and the pressure was off, he now has a steady job, and we are back to at least talking again. I guess he needed some time to think. I still think he needs the time, for I am not pressuring him.He tells me he wants to get his life in order. You know, I can understand that.
Not only are we back to talking almost every nite, but he started talking about our past three years and the holidays we spent together. He stated the holidays are just not the same where he is at, even though he is around family and friends. He says he misses the holidays with us. I thought he was going to cry, he sounded so sad. You could tell he meant what he was saying, just by the tone of his voice. My hope is that he will come back home and be with us. The family who loves him deeply. But for now, I try not to talk to him every nite, I want him to yes, miss us and hopefully someday, he will come swimming bak to us!

I must apologize for the sake of those who share m...

2008-07-07T10:59:00.000-04:00

I must apologize for the sake of those who share my own sign, Pisces,
to anyone who has ever been hurt by one of us. Pisces really don't want to hurt anyone, that's for sure.
But people who want us to stay around must stop trying to change us into what we are not! In needing the freedom to be creative and have our own personal space, we will surely run from overly possessive and materialistically driven personalities!
You must accept that what you love about Pisces is their nature, and this can't be changed. Even if the Pisces "acts" like they are changed for a little while, they will not be able to uphold the mask forever.
So either accept your funny little dreamy lover or not...if you heat up the waters too much, the fish will find a cooler part of the stream...far away from you!

I am a gemini girl who totally fell for a pisces m...

2008-06-16T00:27:00.000-04:00

I am a gemini girl who totally fell for a pisces man for three years. After totally being in love with each other, he moved 1000 miles away to find work. We talked every nite for months on the phone, and spoke for hours. The problem he was caught cheating, and when he got caught, he broke up with me saying I was cheating on him, which I definatly was not! It wasnt like he was seeing anyone, he updated his match.com with his current information and was seen on line bu one of my friends. We havent spoken in 4 weeks, he hecks my myspace every other day ( I only have 3 friends on myspane and 2 are my kids and they dont check and one is him) it is also set at private. Why does he keep cheking up on me? and will he ever admit he screwed us up? And take the blame?I still love him and miss him terribly. I know he misses me, I can feel it (gemini intuition!) Will he come back?

I am a Pisces, I haven't had a ton of relationship...

2008-04-29T15:18:00.000-04:00

I am a Pisces, I haven't had a ton of relationships, but I generally am not prone to flee when reality sets in. I do fit the characteristics of a Pisces, dreamy, not fond of practical things, retreating into dream worlds rather than living in reality. I am aware of my tendencies and am constantly re-evaluating my motives for what I why I want something, someone, etc. It is a strange combination of being very much insightful and having a good understanding of people and things others don’t see, yet the dream like illusion of my own making sometimes I fear may lead to a complete illusion, that has very little basis in reality. Especially in the people I am attracted to. In love everyone is blind, but we fish are almost more so. I can't always believe that anyone I like would actually like me on some level. This fear of rejection, getting hurt runs deep. This is probably due to my age and lack of experience, confidence, but is a constant struggle. I am pretty young and have a lot to learn. I often ask myself, am I only imagining this, is it real, or only fantasy? What I think I want, will it be what I want or whom I want when I get them? I think that being understanding and good at reading people and their needs, empathetic, helping people, at moments of crisis and seeing human flaws are beneficial. I do see people flaws quite easily and bull shiters, but I don't think that this is a bad thing. I am picky with who I like in romantic relationships and still see flaws, but because I know I do too and I want to get to know everything about this guy I like, that does not revolt me and cause me to flee on the spot, but I do need to tell myself, to rethink why I thought differently, and that it is not the end of the world. There are reasons why I am attracted to them, and was at first that are still there. It is okay to put someone on a pedestal, only if you know you are doing so, and that it is only going to dissolve once you get to know him or her. They can still be human and adored for the fabulous person they are. Vulnerability is often under many people’s fronts they put up. Everyone fears rejection. So don't be too harsh, until you know them. I want to know the flaws and the great stuff. They come in a package that includes the flaws. Because I want to know all of him, devour him, but let him be his own person. I think that is what is really important. Having your own life and being self-aware, reflective and sharing it with someone. I find it scary but an extremely strong desire. I don't think all Pisces are like what is above mentioned, wanting what they can't have to such an extreme degree, it varies and people are not all the same. I am loyal, even if sometimes people don't meet my standards. I have high standards and don't find people I am attracted to often. I take time to develop feelings, even if my attraction is immediate. I deficiently do like more of a take charge guy, that can pull me up out of the sea a bit into the sun, but not someone who will let me burn, or burn me.

I read somewhere that Gemini & Pisces are like min...

2008-04-29T08:15:00.000-04:00

I read somewhere that Gemini & Pisces are like minnows and butterflies. Water sign & Air signs. I love that idea but do the two ever get together? I hope so. My "friend" male Pisces seemed to have swam away for a while & I am in pain missing him. Where is he? I am married and we had a three year flirtation that finally came to kissing a few weeks ago. Is the fantasy over?

I'm with those Pisces who've said that while they ...

2008-04-16T00:36:00.000-04:00

I'm with those Pisces who've said that while they do experience some disillusionment in relationships, they still stay in it for the long haul. I have a very dreamy, romantic Piscean nature and would love it if my relationships could be endless fairytales, but I have the grounding and common sense to know that's impossible, and I tolerate and forgive many flaws and offenses in the men I love.

Perhaps this is because I have a Virgo moon, which counters my idealistic nature with practicality. Whatever it is, I think I have a very healthy balance, which has always been extremely helpful in my relationships.

OMFG! wow, this almost made me cry cause It's true...

2008-04-10T15:53:00.000-04:00

OMFG! wow, this almost made me cry cause It's true and I see it now, I see that I fall with the pretty girl, then everything that was said here, then I run to find something else until they find someone new, then I wish I could've done things differently and start to work up my charm then do it over and over and over again! OMG I need help :-(

OMFG! wow, this almost made me cry cause It's true...

2008-04-10T15:43:00.000-04:00

I agree with having the ideal image of the one I d...

2008-03-07T20:54:00.000-05:00

I agree with having the ideal image of the one I desire and then getting a bit disappointed when I see the flaws.

BUT.....I don't run and hide when I see those flaws insofar as they aren't destructive or along those lines.

And I don't make an escape once I get the one I want. Often, it is those who had shown me that they're attracted to me who run and hide when I've made myself available to them ( an Aries, a Gemini, a Taurus and a Libra). I lose interest in these cases only.

Flaws I can take but being wishy-washy is a great turn-off.

Far from wanting someone I can't have (why want the hurt ?), I always run away from someone I know I cannot have. I hate the yearning, and always wish for the resolution, for the time I can be with the one I love.

I do have my dream world and fantasies but I'm pretty much grounded on earth - main income earner for my family for 14 years, part-time social activist, avid environmentalist. For a Pisces, I think I'm pretty much on earth.

Maybe it's a combination of my signs ? Pisces Sun, Gemini Moon, Venus in Aquarius, Taurus Ascendant.

I am a Cancer woman and just broke it off with a P...

2008-02-11T11:26:00.000-05:00

I am a Cancer woman and just broke it off with a Pisces man. I agree with "It is a cruel cycle that never ends until he comes to peace with being on Earth".

Our love was endless. He never left with saying I love you with a kiss that always felt 120% better than the last. We spoke without words sometimes. The love and deep bond we had with was something I never experienced with someone and is honestly, one of the things I look for in a man. Being a Cancer woman, there's nothing a like a Piscean's physical and verbal love. His advice and "worldly" words were beautiful, too. He was friendly to everyone I introduced him to and the best thing about that, he was genuine and sincere and REAL.

But, he didn't work and was in and out of jobs. He'd do things JUST to do them even though he felt it was unneccessary (when it really was neccessary) and was irresponsible a lot of the time. He'd set his obligations aside to escape from them until they got really bad.

He's been wanting me back. He calls and begs and says he needs me (but of course, I was there for him by his side through all the BS). But, the love dried out along with his irresponsiblity and lack of urgency.

He's truly a dreamer... until he gets to grip with reality, then hopefully he'll see why I had to end something that was so great in his eyes. But, of course, he didn't have to do much and didn't think he had to, anyway.

It's sad... but the truth about Pisceans... face reality, please... or you'll lose something so special in your life.

And the sad part, I tear or cry til this day thinking about the love we shared. The love with a Pisces can never compare, but his habit of escaping reality got in the way.

I'm a Scorpio currently going through a divorce fr...

2008-02-10T13:39:00.000-05:00

I'm a Scorpio currently going through a divorce from a Pisces man. We'd been together over 11 years. As I've analyzed what happened, why he decided he needed to move on when our first several years together were deliriously happy, part of what I realized is almost exactly what Jeff is saying about Pisces. They really do have trouble with the reality of who you are, and believe you will always be a muse and inspiration to them, and it's hard for them when you don't live up to that all the time. He even said at one point that maybe he was only in love with the idea of me. That hurt ... But I don't regret having spent so many years with him. Pisces are really beautiful inside. It's just hard to create the world they want to live in.

I'm a pisces girl and I couldn't disagree with thi...

2008-01-20T17:06:00.000-05:00

I'm a pisces girl and I couldn't disagree with this more. I hate the chase, once I get the fellow I couldn't be happier and I want nothing more than to bask in his presense and love him. I'm extremely loyal, understanding, and very forgiving. I do have a habit of escaping into my dream world of ideal things I'd like my lover to do or how I'd like him to be, but when those don't happen I don't just desert him. I'm grounded enough to know what's idealism and what's reality and try to be very fair about things. If I feel wronged, I may distance myself for a time but it's only so I can sort things out.

Oh my gosh! So True! I am a scorpio woman and was ...

2007-12-24T01:14:00.000-05:00

Oh my gosh! So True! I am a scorpio woman and was involved with a pisces throughout high school. we started of the best of friends, i could tell him anything and he understood, it was incredible! we started dating, i had to move but we stayed together, seeing each other when we could, talking on the phone each and every day.
come graduation, when we were supposed to be together finally, i found out he had been seeing a girl in his hometown. i absolutely hit rock bottom, i was so in love with him, oh my. basically i feel like he wasnt ready for a commitment or felt he was having to do something to move forward with me and wasnt ready.
we went our separate ways after many painful talks on the phone. There was a connection beyond a normal boyfriend/girlfriend situation and it was almost unbelievable. I totally feel like if he had me back like he says he wants he would for sure get sick of me in time and cheat on me again. I mean hes cheated on the girl he left me for so...
Its like a whole fantasy thing going on.
But i will say he is a charmer and can make you feel like you are the only thing in this world and that you cant live without him, and he is the only one that understands you, i was totally sucked into the ultimate Pisces man!

Out of the kettle into the frying pan . . . Libra ...

2007-12-10T13:03:00.000-05:00

Out of the kettle into the frying pan . . .

Libra always wants to talk, so that you can listen and analyze them

Virgo always wants YOU to talk, so they can listen and analyze you

either way it can be exhausting

Find yourself a nice Scorpio man, they are generally abused and misunderstood by the rest of the population and will cherish and deeply appreciate your innate Piscean idealism and compassion in this regard

Plus you will probably strike a nice balance in the talking/listening exchange, for a change, and these lovely initimate engaging nebulous conversations about the mysteries of life love and the universe simultaneous serve as excellent aphrodisiacs for steamy sex

!!!

I am cracking up "love to swim upstream - if a fis...

2007-12-10T02:00:00.000-05:00

I am cracking up "love to swim upstream - if a fish is just relaxing in the water it is surely dead." so funny

i am a pisces woman, definitely feel the - want the idea and not always the reality.

I just got out of a relationship with a Libra man and he drove me crazy always wanting to talk about everything instead of just being.

Now I am attracted to a Virgo - am I asking for trouble?

...It just hurts so bad...:(wait..:Ogirls poop??da...

2007-12-04T00:43:00.000-05:00

...

It just hurts so bad...

:(

wait..

:O

girls poop??

damn...

lol

:)

just being moody I guess...

you are in pain my dear because you are a Pisces--...

2007-11-27T05:02:00.000-05:00

you are in pain my dear because you are a Pisces-- they like that

swimming upstream against all odds to spawn, or plumbing the depths of the deep blue sea

(love, pain the whole damn thing)

if you see a fish just floating on the water or sunbathing on the shoreline, rest assured he's dead

don't it feel good to be alive?

I am a pisces female and upon reading this I belie...

2007-11-27T02:22:00.000-05:00

I am a pisces female and upon reading this I believe most all of it to be quite true actually.

But I also have a funny story... I have been in a year and a half relationship with a Sag. And now I am wanting to be with another guy that is a Libra...??

I have been talking and flirting with him for ahwile now and last night I finally gave in and spent the night at his house...

But now...
I still want to see him...?

I still want to talk to him...?

He is still in my thoughts and my dreams and my daydreams..

he is just as a part of my reality as my fantasy world...

and yet it strikes me as odd because I usually seduce until the other is ready and then run like hell...

but not now?? Not last night...I stayed and now this is my reality...??

What does it mean for this pisces??

I am in pain because of this LIBRA...

why o why??

the more I come to this site... the more I realize...

2007-11-17T18:50:00.000-05:00

the more I come to this site... the more I realize that I am atypical of a Piscean in many respects...

sure, I yearn for the "seemingly unattainable pretty girl"... but, that PG certainly, and consciously extends the chase...

I've always been fond of saying that "I'm never her first choice, but will inevitably be choosen by her." ...so, I hang in to pop those warts

-->"Once she becomes real, the bubble has burst"...

This is a fallacy, too. I can accept her Achillies. My dream is likely to become a nightmare because I begin to probe. She won't like it when I sift through the debris in her head, let alone what may lie dormant in her soul.

You can blow more than one bubble with the same stick of gum. There are other characteristics that I will find, and describe as QUIXOTIC.

See, I may be looking for novelity in the old (my partner)... she may prefer external stimuli... (guess I need some Libra balance)...

I can see why Virgo would become frustrated at my sign.

Under this situation, the pedestal is more apt to crumble than from the conquest...

To Julie,

I think you're looking for a Piscean with Moon in Capricorn, or Taurus...

To Jeffrey,

as Spock would say, "Facinating!"... Patience for the patient who is always patient... ;-)

-->Response to "Overt Pressure"

...this is where I see incongruity with my genre

...now, I don't know if I am a product of "hard love" - a dad who is Sun Aries/Moon Sag, and mom who is Sun Libra/Moon Aries

...or if I'm afflicted with a chart with one too many squares, and detrimental planets

...but, I feed off tension ...welcome conflict ...survived the sting of Scorpio ...worked well for callous Ariens ...coasted down "the river" with the "poker players" of the zodiac like Sag, and Cap

lmao@Jara

God help the woman who's the object of a male Pisces with Venus in Aries' affection. ;)

...stop warning them about me

...with this aspect, I will freely admit that if my partner's thirst for action isn't as frequent as mine ...or if she doesn't have a "fertile" mind (pun intended) ...she won't be my Muse

wow. this is so true its almost sad. I'm a pisces ...

2007-10-22T19:18:00.000-04:00

wow. this is so true its almost sad. I'm a pisces female and this happens everytime I think I like a guy. Darn reality and human foibles!

This post makes Pisces sound somewhat like Aries, ...

2007-10-09T10:48:00.000-04:00

This post makes Pisces sound somewhat like Aries, but the motivations are different. Whereas Aries likes the game of the chase and conquest, Pisces likes that feeling of yearning and never quite having. But it all amounts to the same thing - leaving someone with that feeling of having just fallen off a pedestal. Pisces just knows how to cushion the fall a bit better. God help the woman who's the object of a male Pisces with Venus in Aries' affection. ;)

Many of my relatives on my mom's side have planets in Pisces or a lot of Neptunian aspects. The patterns I've noticed (in both males and females) are:

1. Very philanthropic
2. Resourceful/lucky when it comes to making money
3. Marriages don't last, lots of relationships/children, remaining close with exes. They all enjoy being single but always seem to have someone chasing after them (ESPECIALLY my Pisces uncle who is a woman magnet).
4. Relationship ends when the ex kept pushing a relative to "realize your potential" (translation: let's exploit your financial resourcefulness or luck)
5. They help when you call, but otherwise leave you alone
6. Very non-judgmental
7. One group in particular likes to drink (a LOT), but they're always happy-go-lucky while under the influence.
8. Spiritual
9. Good at taking care of people (especially in old age)
10. Parenting motto is "live and let live" (or what I like to call an "Inspirational Parenting" style), where they care about whether you're a good person and then leave it at that. Not many rules.
11. No blood boundaries (considers exes, children of exes, etc. as part of the family, no concept of "half-sibling")

My Pisces Moon mom describes her Pisces Ascendant sister as someone who "likes to live in her dream world but knows she's living a dream (she also has Sun in Virgo). She can get along with you as long as you don't try to bust her dream bubble. If you do, she'll come out fighting. So we just leave her in there."

I've only had one relationship with a Pisces guy. We were fine while living in a world of planning (dreaming for him) and courting (yearning for him), but things went downhill once I started introducing some practicality into the mix with questions like "well, exactly how will that work?" I stopped seeing him as my artist-in-shining armor and more as a delusional guy. When I left our dream-state, that's when he started pulling disappearing acts. When his actions became unreliable like his words, I moved on. But sure enough, he kept calling for years afterwards telling me how much he loves me and blah blah. I think he did that because he knew it was too late, so let the yearning begin!

Thanks, Jeffrey. I'm sure you have qualities that ...

2007-10-09T10:41:00.000-04:00

Thanks, Jeffrey. I'm sure you have qualities that more than compensate for any behavior that might provoke eye-rolling. :) I actually kind of enjoy the eye-rolling aspects of interacting with a Pisces.

We do not respond well to overt pressure.

This, unfortunately, I've already learned on my own.