tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post6396948198788594769..comments2008-07-16T13:46:39.112-04:00Jeffrey Kishnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00053072876900177367noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-84940979016129570862008-07-16T13:46:00.000-04:002008-07-16T13:46:00.000-04:00well, when you put it that way...Jeffrey Kishnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00053072876900177367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-78169455658867358772008-07-15T15:23:00.000-04:002008-07-15T15:23:00.000-04:00Cancer men are weaklings. They are also girly, how they're always with female friends, and crabby. Who needs a crabby and sensitively annoying man anyway?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-79044619220656969282008-06-19T02:03:00.000-04:002008-06-19T02:03:00.000-04:00Does the term PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE ring a bell? These posts on Cancer men seem to allow for their mis-behaviour and their sociopathic tendancies. Why would any sane women allow herself to be treated in this way. If they can't man up and deal with life in a direct manner...then that is their choice. But in the norms of social interactions...THIS IS NOT NORMAL. Women need to stop trying to figure them out. There is no answer to be found when you are dealing with someone who is CANCEROUS. In fact, it will only make you sick if you hang around long enough. Steven Alley in Anthony Kansas is a prime example of the worst type of sociopathic passive agressive predator that you will ever meet. RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN before you get drawn into the sickness that lives within that shell. PURE EVIL PERSONIFIED.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-53650026820547029302008-05-23T13:47:00.000-04:002008-05-23T13:47:00.000-04:00I have some advice for all of you- if a man ignores you for months on end- let go! I don't care what his sign is- the silent treatment and all this shady behavior is no way to treat someone you love. Shred all of his pictures and letters, lose his number and his email address and get on with you life. Oh, and if you run into on the street- trip his shady a**.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-9761821916978384372008-05-23T13:21:00.000-04:002008-05-23T13:21:00.000-04:00I'm a Pisces with a Cancer hubby. when he's mad at me, I ignore him. His mood swings and silent treatment have gotten old and only serve to infuriate me now. I used to play into it and try to find ways to make amends. Now, when he's not speaking to me, I simply do not speak to him. I refuse to apologize first when he's just being a spoiled brat. Eventually, his need for attention prompts him to make the first move- usually in the form of bringing me food. Then, he acts like nothing ever happened. Uuugghhh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-58296676153503755242008-05-22T03:02:00.000-04:002008-05-22T03:02:00.000-04:00HE FINALLY ANSWERED ME!!! I am the "Anon" one from the previous zillion notes who has the non-speaking Cancer "friend". <BR/><BR/>He actually answered me today. It is the first response I have had in over one year!<BR/><BR/>In my last attempt to try one more time, I kept it light and apologized for any unhappiness I might have caused.<BR/><BR/>He apologized for not answering me or contacting me sooner (1 yr!). He said to let him know when I was around (in town).<BR/><BR/>Nothing really notable, except this was his first attempt to communicate with me after my at least 8 emails/ attempts to contact him. (not mentioning the smses!)<BR/><BR/>So how do I handle this? <BR/><BR/>There was really no indication whatsoever about friendship or more. Other than I told him that I would try one more time to write him because I do not give up on things that matter to me and that I valued his friendship and still thought that he was a special person. I wrote that I hoped that we could hang out because I missed that.<BR/><BR/>After his shot apology for IGNORING me for 1 yr, he basically just said to let him know when I was around.<BR/><BR/>So how should I handle this? <BR/><BR/>I think I should keep it light and just have lunch or a drink...keep things superficial now, until we actually see each other right?<BR/><BR/>Have no clue how to handle this!<BR/><BR/>Advice????<BR/><BR/>What does this mean that after all the silence (after my NUMEROUS attempts to email or phone him) he finally answers me...very calmly as if it was just a month that had passed....<BR/><BR/>I understand that my situation was a bit more "delicate and complicated"....but how should I interpret his actions? what would be a good approach for me?<BR/><BR/>THANKS for ALL the advice!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-55309449019476617852008-05-17T09:22:00.000-04:002008-05-17T09:22:00.000-04:00I think the worst part of them being angry, is this 'chilliness'. My boyfriend has a cancer moon, and I have a scorpio moon. Not matter what happens with the rest of our signs, This has been our strongest connection, and has kept us together through almost everything. I dont know how it feels to be on the brunt end of my 'angry' moments, or how I shut people out...but his reactions can wound me more than anyone, because he'll let you into everything about his life, be so long together...and then when you've wounded him its like he cant tell the difference between you and the milk man. Its pretty hardcore when you feel this. Which usually insets some big emotions on my part, because of my libra sun I just really want to work it all out with words, but he doesnt want to talk about it. Especially his feelings...but when you open up, and admit your wrongs, throw in a couple weeping moments about your childhood and all the things you've endured, and especially something about you 'needing' him...its sometimes able to break the shell. But if he doesnt really love you, it probably wont break the frozen lake.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-22588070418860737862008-05-03T23:11:00.000-04:002008-05-03T23:11:00.000-04:00I dated a Cancerian man for 10 years and broke up with him 4 years ago, because he didn't marry me. He talked about marriage with me but never proposed to me. I had a baby one year after out break up and he told my family member that if I would of had his child he would of maaried me. So now we have both moved on with our lives I have a family and he has a family of his own "he even got married. He wants to see me now after all these years that have passed us by. My question is why does he want to see me, after all I am not the one he choose to marry?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-47238246831850859062008-05-01T15:38:00.000-04:002008-05-01T15:38:00.000-04:00I was dating a cancer man and i have to say my overbearing taurus personality has finally pushed him away from me. I am so distraught as we were perfect together. I pused him away so many times yet despite his extremely typical canerian traits, he came back to me. But this was the last straw. I really dont know how to win him back...he says he has given up trying to prove to me that i mean a lot to him (he never says such thing...does not say n i need to hear) and that there's no chance that he'll try again. M absolutely devastated. I dont know if that is final or if he'll be back once he starts missing me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-34704482845984052302008-04-19T04:44:00.000-04:002008-04-19T04:44:00.000-04:00p.s. to Anon 2...after re-reading your post...I have to ask you, where do you live? what city? <BR/><BR/>do you know what my favorite horse at his stables is named? <BR/><BR/>because somehow ironically enough, they way that you worded/wrote your answer sounded like something that he would say.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-1661609203377442602008-04-17T03:59:00.000-04:002008-04-17T03:59:00.000-04:00To the two Anons....thank you for your advice. It is appreciated...<BR/><BR/>Anon 1: But the inclusion with his family was really the big thing (and that his family did not know I was married) and he just brought me everywhere and I was so comfortable just staying with his father, brothers,etc...even if he was elsewhere, he just wanted me to be there...and all invitations from others to us...was always, "we cannot make it, or we will be there".<BR/><BR/>maybe we should not have done those things, given the circumstances, but since we never even kissed, it seemed ok.<BR/><BR/>anyway...so know that I spend alot of time in the city where his younger brother lives, he knows indirectly about all my friends and ongoings there..so when I go back to his city, the question will be how to handle it?<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I am so mad, part of me just feels like...too bad, he blew it...he just disappeared and it is his loss....but then I know that I still would really like to know WHY...., as a lover, it is understandable, but since we never even kissed (but yes, I truly believe in my heart I was given an amazing gift in my time with him) as a friend...that is why til this day I do not understand and do not know if I should still even try. much time has passed and i thought that he would be talking to me by now.<BR/><BR/>Anon 2: I do not know if I can call him...part of me feels like I have tried so much over the past 11 months (but I have to admit that on the few occasions last year when some of his acquaintances saw me with other guy friends, they were like, "where is he? why are you with him?" etc...type of thing...but anyway...I called him and left messages a few months ago, but with the no response to my albeit general valentine's day card..i almost feel like calling is like i am begging him to talk to me ( which I think i have already done?)....<BR/><BR/>That is what I do not get...how can you just cut someone out??<BR/><BR/>But now, I do think I will be going back to his city in about two weeks..and I have no idea how to handle this.<BR/><BR/>It is almost like, "no matter how things have been, should he not have known, deep in his heart, that i meant what i said - that he was a very special person"...it is just that at that point last year...i was not in any position to do anything or even "go there"...but should our special friendship not have meant something to him??!!! especially since he made me such a part of his entire life?<BR/><BR/>:( very sadAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-43708805131764018082008-04-16T08:38:00.000-04:002008-04-16T08:38:00.000-04:00I wouldnt send an email after him not reacting to a V-day card... he will not answear the email, i am sure...<BR/>I would call him directly with just: would you like to go for a drink? or text him<BR/><BR/>i think its more direct and lightAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-80715274953280093632008-04-15T23:58:00.000-04:002008-04-15T23:58:00.000-04:00Maybe you should consider that in this case his behavior may have nothing to do with being a Cancer. That is, his tendency to withdraw may be Cancerian, but the reason he's withdrawn may have zero to do with his sign, your sign, or anything related to your charts. <BR/><BR/>How about this? To solve the mystery, why not ask him? You already sent him a V-Day card, so you broke the silence and were the first to contact him, putting your pride on the line. At this point, you have nothing left to lose. Why not just email or call, tell him how much you valued his friendship, admit that you miss him, and ask him what happened that caused him to cut you out of his life. If he doesn't respond, that's extremely immature, rude behavior, and you might want to give him up as a lost cause.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-72828143264043411202008-02-23T03:49:00.000-05:002008-02-23T03:49:00.000-05:00ok, I'm the one who was married, separated, tried again and have finally set a deadline for myself...it was not so easy to just walk up and leave another relationship but I am trying to do this in the best way possibly...<BR/><BR/>anwyay... i had this new best friend (the Cancer guy), who stopped talking to me after basically making me a part of his whole world - friends, family, hobbies, sports, etc - nothing physical ever happened, but he truly is one of the most special people I have ever met (except at the moment he really irritates me)....so it's been about 9 months since I last actually spoke to him (he just abruptly stopped answering my emails, phone calls etc...no explanation..)...i thought that he would be ready to speak to me again, but still absolutely nothing. <BR/><BR/>I sent a general valentine's day card to a few friends (him included)...i saw that he opened it..no response.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Is he still mad at me for something that he never actually told me upset him (I am learning that this is a Cancer trait...the shutting up like a crab)? How should I approach this? <BR/><BR/>Even if we never become a couple (but honestly, when I am emotionally truly ready to start again, I could not imagine a more perfect person for me than him), I really could just be his friend because we have so much in common and he showed me so much of himself through what he loves to do and by being around his childhood friends and his family.... (except this part which just all of a sudden just cut me out and makes me really mad right now!) or could give it a try if he would actually talk to me!<BR/><BR/>What does the little Crab really want from this Scorpio girl (me!)?!<BR/>If you open up (a Cancer) your life completely to someone then just immediately cut them out without any reason or words? What is going on?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-29788119335137966582008-02-21T18:18:00.000-05:002008-02-21T18:18:00.000-05:00I am a cancer woman who "was" dating a cancer man. Suddenly I am getting a taste of my own medicine. I'm also feeling like a jerk because of what I put my friends and family through on a regular basis. Who knew what it felt like to be on the other side of a random mood swing, drama queen behavior, self-centeredness and martrydom. I say I was dating him because we are now at a standoff and continuing under the rouse that it is possible to be platonic. I'm not giving in this time because I always do he is feeling pressured because I wanted a commitment and instead of giving me a direct answer he told me a bunch of riddles. Anyone who knows a cancer understands we don't like things up in the air I need a yes or no for my sense of security. So I started dating a sag (hoping he will be a fun fling he tells me he wants to be in a relationship but I am skeptical because of my preconceived notions aboout sags)and because of the fun I have with him it's easier for me to give my cancer the space he needs and honestly I don't mind because it is hard dating a cancer next time I will run.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-3589966104096316462008-02-16T23:06:00.000-05:002008-02-16T23:06:00.000-05:00heyyy...just broke up with my cancer bf ....he just randomly dropped me one day cz we had a little argument ...he does this all the time but is it really over? and should i chase him? im soo confusedd please help<BR/> :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-47042647917828079832008-02-06T02:12:00.000-05:002008-02-06T02:12:00.000-05:00Not to be rude, honey, but it sounds like your Cancer guy may have made a decision based on good common sense that has nothing to do with insecurity. <BR/><BR/>You don't present your situation in a way that arouses sympathy. <BR/><BR/>You might consider resubmitting your question with greater clarity, more details, and certainly, a great deal more insight into both parties.<BR/><BR/>Good luck.Leg Crossing Aheadnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-56867493039699500272008-02-05T23:54:00.000-05:002008-02-05T23:54:00.000-05:00wat do i do if a cancer man broke up with me because i have been throwing temper tantrums too much (not purposely of course) the past month and hes sick of it? and i know cancers are insecure but is there anyway to make them feel secure about a long distance relationship?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-19028242762748376302008-01-18T02:20:00.000-05:002008-01-18T02:20:00.000-05:00Thanks! I definitely do not know how to approach this...I think my Scorpio overbearing and direct approach has gotten me nowhere with this Cancer boy....<BR/><BR/>The only problem is that we have a few friends, well, they are more his friends in common and two of them are no longer speaking to me either (and they are the ones that introduced us)...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-78848862763849817962008-01-17T02:39:00.000-05:002008-01-17T02:39:00.000-05:00I feel for you got this Cancer guy too that has not talked to me in a month, I think that if they perceive any type of rejection so very slight forget it they go hiding in a shell and stay away from the person that whatever was done. <BR/><BR/>My cancer I just get so frustrated with I am Aries. So stay tuned here we might get some good answers<BR/>as to what makes them tick!Charnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-2118961786062412912008-01-16T18:05:00.000-05:002008-01-16T18:05:00.000-05:00I need your advice. I am a Scorpio girl and I met a Cancer boy... A common friend said he would be a good point of reference contact for me.<BR/><BR/>He was a really nice guy. In fact we had so much in common, hobbies, perspective on life, love of the ocean (hahaha).<BR/><BR/>I often have male friends and keep them simply that...male friends.<BR/><BR/>i am married, but will probably change soon....thought he knew...but he did not until the 4th day or 5th...anyway...we still spent lots of time together. He included me in so many parts of his everyday life, friends, family, hobbies, social occasions...etc...he was ALWAYS the perfect gentlemen....<BR/><BR/>It did occur to me that this guy was the person that I always believed never existed.<BR/><BR/>My own life was still (and for a long time) has been in limbo. I need to clean up everything in that area but it is easier said than done.<BR/><BR/>I do not think that relationships end because of someone else...they end because they end....<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I valued him as a person so much that I wanted to at the minimum keep his friendship.<BR/>Since we never had a physical relationship I thought it would be easier to do.<BR/><BR/>Problem is that he will no longer talk to me or respond to any of my emails. Absolutely no response.<BR/><BR/>How does a person (Cancer male) go from bringing a new friend into so many aspects of his life dear to him - family, childhood friends, home etc....simply just cut off all ties??? We both acknowledged that we thought each other was special. He truly is a very special person....except...<BR/><BR/>It has been 7 months since I last heard anything at all from him. <BR/><BR/>It is like we broke up without having ever gone out!<BR/><BR/>How will he talk to me again?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-1693546893340465072008-01-09T01:57:00.000-05:002008-01-09T01:57:00.000-05:00I forgot to add I am a Aries I am now learing about my sign from you all. Thanks..<BR/><BR/>CharCharnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-75691832691677914322008-01-09T01:54:00.000-05:002008-01-09T01:54:00.000-05:00Ok I saw my cancer man twice in Dec and when I saw him he wanted to talk but both times I ignored him and deleted his email account.<BR/><BR/>Now I have not seen him since 12-18 so I think I need to give him space. I was upset because of his broken promises. <BR/><BR/>Now I really miss him but I wont chase him HELP Please with my Cancer guy what do I do?<BR/><BR/>CharCharnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-16746231987714016942007-12-13T16:17:00.000-05:002007-12-13T16:17:00.000-05:00thaaaawwwwssssss . . .<BR/><BR/>love all, trust few<BR/>learn to paddle your own canoe<BR/><BR/>and don't try it on a frozen lakeaddendumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-67585921438345146912007-12-13T16:14:00.000-05:002007-12-13T16:14:00.000-05:00depends if the lake is frozen over or not<BR/><BR/>of course you could always bring along a pick axe and chop your way through, but the water will be mighty cold<BR/><BR/>the best way to handle a frozen lake is to wait until springtime when it thaw on its own<BR/><BR/>in the meantime find a Leo to light up your life<BR/><BR/>or a hit and run Sagi to bring on the Magi (it's the most wonderful time of the year!)one size fits allnoreply@blogger.com