tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post2691120239294623132..comments2008-01-30T09:13:23.275-05:00Jeffrey Kishnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00053072876900177367noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-44227441758179594812008-01-30T09:13:00.000-05:002008-01-30T09:13:00.000-05:00Greetings to the house--on my third visit.<BR/><BR/>Wasn't this question on the cover of Cosmo last year, right above Ten Tips for Trapping a Taurus? Of course, in this forum, such matters are so heartfelt, it's hard not to laugh. Some things are too serious to take seriously all the time.<BR/><BR/>But that's probably just me.<BR/><BR/>The answer, unsurprisingly, is both simple and infinitely complex: what any of us seek from the Other depends on where we are in our self-awareness and becoming. For myself, there's no hesitation--of course I do. Otherwise, why bother?<BR/><BR/>I speak only for myself, but a relationship based primarily on sex feels like most porn after, say, two minutes--emotionally empty, devoid of context, and often somewhat embarrassing. It serves a purpose, no question. But, ultimately, I'm glad when it's over so I can go do something else. And, please--don't get me started on production values.<BR/><BR/>Meanwhile, back at the question . . .<BR/><BR/>With Scorp rising and a Scorp Sun-Venus conjunction in the 1st house--plus Mars in Sadge a couple degrees later, the magnet and steel I feel with the Twins goes to the core of what I need to learn this time around. Balance in the process of holding close by letting go.<BR/><BR/>But, to get to that place where breathing feels like one endless sigh is a touch more challenging than seeking solace at Seduction Central. Like any of the 12, Gemini babes flit and cavort in all flavors and colors. While most may get my attention, it's taken time to discover what sustains it. For example, Venus in Taurus and a Cancer Moon seriously crank up compatibility. They color Gemini energy with broad brushstrokes of sensuality and sensitivity, a special kind of tender heart. A sometimes crabby and stubborn, bossy babe vibe that drives me up the wall. Just *thinking* about it kicks in re-runs that give me a goofy grin, grateful to be a man.<BR/><BR/>And if I have the good sense to make her feel immensely accepted and encouraged toward her potential, she's giving me exactly what I want--in spades. Along with everything I need. The lightness and agility, comfort in a crowd, curious Georgette way of seeing the world--all this appeals and . . . you get the picture.<BR/><BR/>Gemini's at ease where I come undone. But, in a great match, she's got my back just like I've got hers. Only different. And Amazing. And one Hell of a lot of fun. What's not to like?<BR/><BR/>I don't mean any of this in the spirit of a sorcerer stirring up some ideal woman in a cauldron. Absent PMS, Jerry Springer moments, and real-life, emotional banging around--the crucible of love that transforms us all.<BR/><BR/>And there's no substitute for magic, some inexplicable quality that turns my armor to lace, and causes the walls to come tumbling down. I can't define that any more than I could ID who wrote the Book of Love.<BR/><BR/>Thank God.<BR/><BR/>==========<BR/>Speaking of Gemini, I made mention of the Twins in a previous comment addressing that age-old conundrum of why Scorpio males stare. A comment, which, in a spasm of male ingenuity, I rendered nearly illegible with what a fellow Anon generously described as "Egyptian hieroglyphics."<BR/><BR/>For her sake, here's a reprise, absent the need for a Rosetta Stone.<BR/>==========<BR/><BR/>Greetings to the house--it's good to drop by once again.<BR/><BR/>Shall we?<BR/><BR/>The guy up there making like a Roy Batty wannabe in the opening frames of Blade Runner actually looks like his girlfriend's cat is making biscuits on his lap, and just sank a claw into his boys--that special male moment just prior to a hoarse cry of recognition.<BR/><BR/>With Scorp rising and Sun and Venus conjunct in the first house, not far from the ascendant, it's rare for me to *stare* at someone unless I'm watching out of curiosity; as in, zero predatory intent. I don't care for that approach. It seems more macho than machismo, and anyone who knows the tango understands exactly what I mean.<BR/><BR/>There's no need to stare, and I've no interest. If I want her to know that she has my attention, believe me, a one-second glance is plenty. If she's someone who *sustains* my attention, she's likely astute enough to read the follow-up in my body, how I move my hands, the way I smile. The warmth. And it won't take much to let me know she's receptive.<BR/><BR/>I'm drawn to subtlety and understatement, and appreciate those qualities at the heart of a woman. And, if she's Gemini with a little Crab and Bull in the mix--but that's another matter.<BR/><BR/>By no means does the above preclude a steamy encounter in a crowded, bawdy setting, hot tunes from the booth, mirror ball spinning, drinks and laughter all around. But, even then, why stare? If she's unaware of my aura and I can't catch her eye, I'll take a chance, make an excuse to get close, whisper in her ear, or write a question mark on her palm with my finger. And smile.<BR/><BR/>I know this puts me at odds with those more inclined to see courtship as counting coup, a variation of war between the sexes where one takes pride in personal weaponry, emotional scars justifying cynicism, a jaundiced eye toward flowers, style, and chivalry.<BR/><BR/>So?<BR/><BR/>This is not to say that I won't summon that power if circumstances warrant. There's no question but that it's eloquent and energy-efficient if someone's in my face and I want to make absolutely clear: have you thought this through? There's the line. Cross it at your peril.<BR/><BR/>But those moments are rare. If there's a choice, I'll walk away.<BR/><BR/>And so it goes.--Anonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-64545458324001215542007-07-25T22:16:00.000-04:002007-07-25T22:16:00.000-04:00The promise of having found a wonderful soulmate is deluding her Pisces Moon, the uncertainty is keeping her Gemini Venus entertained, and the good sex is pacifying her Leo Mars. Eventually, though, Mars in Leo will want (and then demand!) to be publicly acknowledged and that's when the proverbial sh!t could hit the fan. :)blahblahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-81577325347013348422007-07-24T14:09:00.000-04:002007-07-24T14:09:00.000-04:00ON the other hand, Leos are also very good at deluding themselves and, being a fixed sign, it's very very hard to get them to see reality...Eme Kahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12216097041902446881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37240917.post-80431164534628144672007-07-24T13:47:00.000-04:002007-07-24T13:47:00.000-04:00Can't she also use that Mars in Leo to protect herself?Eme Kahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12216097041902446881noreply@blogger.com