Comments on Becky's T-Blog: Somebody else’s problem

I could probably walk around town naked and not st...

2006-11-12T22:54:00.000Z

I could probably walk around town naked and not stick out much

I find it depends on how cold it is!

I have another theory, (excuse me if someone has a...

2006-11-11T18:07:00.000Z

I have another theory, (excuse me if someone has already said this or I'm barking up the wrong hatstand; I haven't read the entire threads response because a) I'm a bit drunk and b) I'm a lazy bastid).
In town today I happened to see the towns resident OBVIOUS TRANNY. This old guys been at it for so long he's become a fixture. And you know what? Because he's now become a common sight; I didn't (and I'd say the same for everyone else) give him a second look.
I imagine these days, such "strangeness" is commonplace, and the enlightened 21st century person will take it all with out batting an eyelid.

I could probably walk around town naked and not stick out much. ;)

Some really interesting observations.A TS friend o...

2006-11-07T21:10:00.000Z

Some really interesting observations.

A TS friend of mine told me that in her early days when she was flapping about being read in the street, her mum turned around and asked her "What makes you so important?"

It really made me stop and think, its so easy to assume that we're so fabulously interesting that people are going to be paying attention to us and not be wrapped up in their own worlds.

And Kath I can relate to those instincts giving the game away. I was in the ladies at a theatre once checking my makeup when a woman came to the adjoining sink to freshen up. We both had a moments eye contact in the mirror, and shared a polite smile. I realised she hadn't twigged but as we were leaving the loo, I instinctively held the door open for her. As soon as I did it I thought sh*t! She immediately did a double take, looked more closely at me and I saw the penny drop. Dam!

Of course passing is not the same as being noticed...

2006-11-04T12:30:00.000Z

Of course passing is not the same as being noticed. I'm thinking of Eddie Izzard as an example: he doesn't try to "pass" but i doubt that people "notice" him ... well they might notice him in the sense of "there's that comedian, hey I haven't heard from him a while".

The brain is amazing at filtering out stuff; if someone turns up at work with new glases you might never notice, if they have a new hairstyle you'll notice for a week perhaps.

You could probably turn up to work in a blouse and, as long as it wasn't frilly, people wouldn't notice. You could turn up in a skirt and after a week they'd probably stop noticing.

Then they might notice they've stopped noticing and that would really mess with their heads :-)

NH That was excellent, I even read it withn a Mitc...

2006-11-04T09:47:00.000Z

NH That was excellent, I even read it withn a Mitchell voice inside my head!

I think there is a broad spectrum of trannies from the fetish brigade where it's a sexual act right through to those who are en-route to TS. For me Kath is a different part of me, and she is as feminine as possible, so 'passing' is important, even though I've barely ever been out as Kath where people would get the chance to judge. I don't want to "want to mess with people’s minds" I want to mess with my own. If you've ever done role play (properly), that's the nearest I can get to explaining it, I 'role play' Kath. She'll never be a pretty girl, and I don't want to be a pretty trannie ('cause that would play with a different part of my head!) So looking like an average, middle aged woman, doing the shopping like lots of other average looking, middle aged women doing the shopping, is exactly what I'm trying to achieve.

The fact that it took me an hour and a half to look as good as a slightly stressed woman who's picking some stuff up, on the way home to feed the kids, after a tough day at work is neither here nor there!

On my one and only trip to Tesco's a few weeks ago, I wasn't aware of anyone noticing me and if they did, they didn't hit the fire alarm and start shouting TRANNIE while dancing around me and pointing, like I assumed they would. But I noticed some 'trannietriggers', like my path crossed another woman and I stepped back 'naturally', which was in a 'bloke way'. I was acutely aware that that's not how two women would pass each other but didn't know what I should have done 'differently'. Then in Tesco, the gg I was with went up to the clothing (sales) rack in an 'aggressive' manner while I held back, all ready doing the 'bored husband' routine while scanning the area from a distance. I then realised how 'odd' that would look to anyone else and dived in. Finally, the urge to look at people to see if they were looking at me. Of course if you look at people, they wonder why, and look back! It was *really* hard initially to look at the stuff on the shelves instead of other customers! Only when those female mannerisms are natural will you start to develop SEP. People want order in their lives. If the 'actions' are those of a woman, they think you're a woman. If there is incongruity, then they look closer to try and 'bring order' to what they are seeing. And that's when 'trannie' becomes part of their 'order'.

NH, Have you gotten hold of a script for season 3 ...

2006-11-03T19:35:00.000Z

NH, Have you gotten hold of a script for season 3 of Peep Show?? I can see him saying exactly that!

I for one don't belive in SEP...I'm more a believe...

2006-11-03T10:45:00.000Z

I for one don't belive in SEP...I'm more a believer in what I term "David Mitchell Syndrome"; this is where you're all too aware of everything around you but you're too scared or worried to do anything about it. So an encounter with a passable tranny in public will run like this:

"My god, is that a man or a woman? I think it's a man but I could be wrong; it's hard to tell sometimes...not that I conciously look out for these things. Don't stare DON'T STARE but that is an adam's apple and the backs of her...or his...or it's...hands are hairy. OK, just because he's dressed as a woman doesn't mean I have to stare and make her, or him, self concious; they have a right to be here and express themselves like anyone else who am I to judge? You hear of people who think they're trapped in the wrong body and if I keep staring they'll think I fancy them which I don't...well, not much although they do look kind of convincing...or worse everyone else here will think I'm gay...maybe the tranny will think I'm flirting with them and there'll be some terrible social awkwardness...oh my god what if they're a nutter under that dress? What if they pal you up, invite them to your place and then butcher you like that tranny in that film? Or maybe they'll invite you to play some kind of kinky sex game with their transgendered friends oh no, not that, I couldn't bear that! What would my friends on the pub quiz team say? Just keep your head down, David, just pretend that they're just another man...thing...woman.

It's a really interesting point though, Bex, partl...

2006-11-03T09:58:00.000Z

It's a really interesting point though, Bex, partly because of all the photo collections and people's write-ups and various things on the telly, and some tranny people being rather less than convincing, I had the impression that because you looked pretty bloody good, I'd assumed that that carried over to walking down the street-type activities. It's more difficult for someone like me to imagine the different degrees of passing, everything between "none" and "all the time".

Obviously I'm coming at this from a different perspective, but your training course goer could be a lot like me. I have big big hands, let's face it, but they're delicate, and I've had friends incredulous that they never realised the size, so clearly my hands generate their own little SEP field. Height? Is 6ft 2in enough? Yet some people don't pick up on that either. Voice? Sort of a cross between Cher and Mariella Frostrup I suppose. It's about bringing together all the little positives: manicuring, grooming, hip shape, the way you walk, the way you sound and speak, the subconscious mannerisms, and in cherry-picking the ones you can do best and in sufficient combination you can do surprisingly well.

Yet I had a friend a long time ago whose phrase was "Why dress to pass?" :-)

You are very pretty- a gorgeous TG girl.Your given...

2006-11-03T08:06:00.000Z

You are very pretty- a gorgeous TG girl.Your given sex is irrelevant. Keep your head held high.

"Bex - You are a very cute Oversized Kidney Stone....

2006-11-03T00:57:00.000Z

"Bex - You are a very cute Oversized Kidney Stone..."

LOL

Only a girlfriend can get away with that sort of compliment :-D

The big hands and bushy brows? I'd have thought th...

2006-11-03T00:55:00.000Z

The big hands and bushy brows? I'd have thought that would have switched off the trannydar. Because as many many of us try to do, those things that 'scream' bloke... we try to minimise or shroud.

Bushy brows? Tweezer action.
Big hands? Pockets - well, maybe some self concious behaviour anyway.

Although I do think Jane is on to something. The whole mundanity of everday life, means that when we try to 'blend' in, no one notices. The finger pointing and sniggering only starts when you've got your stocking tops on show and 5 inch patent heels on your feet at Waitrose.

Allegedly...

Bex - You are a very cute Oversized Kidney Stone.J...

2006-11-02T23:20:00.000Z

Bex - You are a very cute Oversized Kidney Stone.

Jo - I don't know, barring the fantatists (pretended to be the wife at a high powered meeting and won the big contract) I think it could well be possible that some of the "ropies" do pass away after all most women look ropy most of the time, I know I do and if they are going out confident that they will pass maybe they've got their SEP going too.

After all most people wander around in a semi daze they are thinking about what was on telly, whether the gunners are going to get relegated, what's for tea, Oh look shiny thing in the shop must buy that.

They are not on the look out for trannies so they don't tend to spot them ever, Then those that do tend to be polite enough or reserved enough not to shout out "Ohh look Mabel a tranny"
I've spotted far more trannies on the mean streets of fenland since I've been reading tranny blogs 2 years ish than I did in the previous *cough* lots years because now I know what to look for, now I'm constantly looking for the signs.

The flipside of this is the immunity shield - wher...

2006-11-02T22:44:00.000Z

The flipside of this is the immunity shield - where girls who look very ropey from every photo they have posted, tell stories of how they have gone shopping in daylight and "nobody read me"... when you just know that they are oblivious to all the stares and pointing that go on in their wake....

But I know what you mean about those girls who just seem to exude chuztpah.. they just blend in so well. I just feel so awkward the whole time.. kinda attracts attention, or at least it feels like it.