Comments on Becky's T-Blog: What transvestism is like for me

Cross dressing is like a tightrope. You got to lea...

2006-02-03T16:28:00.000Z

Cross dressing is like a tightrope. You got to learn balance. Otherwise it takes over everything and what was once fun, is'nt. Boohockey.

What Stegbeetle said about balance is along the li...

2006-02-02T21:36:00.000Z

What Stegbeetle said about balance is along the lines of how I was going to analogise it; I think it's about balancing more than one option, in this case, one's presentation and social circles.

Analogy: I'm a cyclist (as anyone who's seen my site will be painfully aware), and I happen to have a choice of more than three bikes. Each of them is great in its own way, but I can only ride one at a time and I'll go through phases of riding one in preference to another, sometimes this lasts for months and months. Then the preference changes and I'll go with the flow once again. It doesn't mean I may as well sell the one I'm convinced I'm not using enough, because I'm mindful that my preference will change at some point. It's still valid for a choice of two bikes/items/states of mind/etc. Is that any good?

I can't really comment on the crossdressing thing exactly, except for distant memories in which it was exactly a case of whether the actions justified the identity, or vice versa.

No, you've all got it wrong. Crossdressing is like...

2006-02-01T22:54:00.000Z

No, you've all got it wrong. Crossdressing is like...

cross-dressing is like a bloke wearing a skirt...[...

2006-02-01T21:46:00.001Z

cross-dressing is like a bloke wearing a skirt...

[i]err, sorry, never got this analogy milarkie sorted[/i]

ps, the dressing disire has gone right off for me too, although I know it will come back... perhaps it's a seasonal thing?

"Transvestism is like a box of chocolates. Everyon...

2006-02-01T16:57:00.000Z

"Transvestism is like a box of chocolates. Everyone tries to ignore the walnut whip..."

We don't all go to the same kinds of S&M clubs that you go to, Jo!

"My transvestism gets me out of the house. The rew...

2006-02-01T15:40:00.000Z

"My transvestism gets me out of the house. The rewards are sometimes pretty shit, but I love it."

The rewards can really be very pretty shit... :) Beautiful in fact.

Transvestism is like a box of chocolates. Everyone...

2006-02-01T13:44:00.000Z

Transvestism is like a box of chocolates. Everyone tries to ignore the walnut whip...

I think Kat might be onto something when talking a...

2006-02-01T09:08:00.000Z

I think Kat might be onto something when talking about "balance in life". The fact that you haven't felt the need (or desire) to dress up for a bit suggests that your life is pretty fulfilling as a whole and that something (or someone *wink*) is giving you the feel-good that you also get from dressing.
As it seems to have turned into analogy central around here here's my penn'orth: Transvestism is like a favourite band. You don't need to be listening to them all the time but you know that a time will come, sooner or later, when nothing else will suffice.

Damn can't think of a metaphor (I was going to nic...

2006-02-01T06:44:00.000Z

Damn can't think of a metaphor (I was going to nick the Tango Clear one but it was too wet).
I used to stress if I didn't dress as Connie once a week. Now? Not fussed. I still do when the chance arises, even if it is at home so I can work on my look. In fact I think I tend to dress casually as a woman more and save the glitzy stuff for going out. I just like to think I have a huge varied cross-gender clothes choice.
I am Connie either way.

Yeh, well I think a lot of us go through peaks and...

2006-02-01T04:42:00.000Z

Yeh, well I think a lot of us go through peaks and troughs of activity... Usually when life throws up other distractions... Mind you, that is only really the physical manifestations that Becky talks about. As has been pointed out, it's still there inside, just doesn't necessarily need to be on show all the time...

I sense the 'can't be arsed- ness' indicates a balance in life, ie. it's not dominating everything one does or defining the individual.

Granted, having the luxury to do the trans* bits when you want and how you want, is a major factor in a 'take it or leave it' attitude.

Transvestism is like a Blue Peter badge. When you ...

2006-01-31T23:26:00.000Z

Transvestism is like a Blue Peter badge. When you first find out about it, there are a lot of very impressive people associated with it. You want it, so badly. Eventually, you get one. Like a dog with two tails, you can't get enough of it. But slowly, though, your thoughts move to other things, other badges, until it's put away along with all the other bits and pieces at the back of the draw of your life.

Once day, you'll open the draw, see the badge, and a wave of incredible memories will come back to you, and it will be just like you were six again and thinking that John Noakes was really cool.

But the REALLY cool thing is: even though you're not wearing it, you'll always have had that badge.

Gemma xxx (who's taken to wearing her badge amongst people who like Magpie, WDY... and Swap Shop (urgh! Those sweaters!))

Do I get a badge? :-/

2006-01-31T22:38:00.000Z

Do I get a badge? :-/

Welcome to the twighlight world of the ex-gay, duc...

2006-01-31T22:36:00.000Z

Welcome to the twighlight world of the ex-gay, duckie...

LOL. I can't believe I pour my heart out in a semi...

2006-01-31T22:20:00.000Z

LOL. I can't believe I pour my heart out in a semi-serious blog on what transvestism means to me and you all start going on about sandwich toasters and bloody Branston Pickle! :-)

Doesn't Branston Pickle make you trump?And I don't...

2006-01-31T20:29:00.000Z

Doesn't Branston Pickle make you trump?
And I don't like acorns, so no toasties for me.

I do love the "transvestism is like scafolding" analogy but I know I'll get it all confused with bingo and pickles when I try and explain it to someone.

When asked why he did so many drugs and drank so much, Robert Downey Jr said something along the lines of "because its bloody good fun". I guess that'll do for me, yep thats it "scaffolding is fun", got it.

Transvestism is like a bloody good hug when you ne...

2006-01-31T19:51:00.000Z

Transvestism is like a bloody good hug when you need one.
I've barely dressed in the last 20 years, but I'm still a tranny at heart. It doesn't go away it seems. It lurks in the back of the cupboard of your mind . . . .

You're all wrong , transvestism is like.. really g...

2006-01-31T18:35:00.000Z

You're all wrong , transvestism is like.. really good fun man.

Is it too melodramatic to compare cross-dressing t...

2006-01-31T18:28:00.000Z

Is it too melodramatic to compare cross-dressing to booze? It makes life feel a little better, you shouldn't over-do it, it leads to public exhibitionism, you sometimes wake up looking like a panda (if you forget the beauty wipes!), you'll always be an ex-tranny, neer a non-tranny, its legal but frowned upon by the press, it can take over your life if you let it, etc...

...why do I suddenly want to play bingo while I dr...

2006-01-31T16:28:00.000Z

...why do I suddenly want to play bingo while I drink orange juice and eat a chicken salad sandwich?

Transvestism is starting to sound like lunch.

What transvestism is like for me... I'll use the s...

2006-01-31T14:17:00.000Z

What transvestism is like for me... I'll use the sandwich toaster analogy.
I love toasted sandwiches, but the ridicule and bad vibes I will get from my parents from making and eating the sandwiches will be catastrophic. which, since I'm living with them at the moment isn't something I particularly want to happen, so I will have to wait till I move out then eat as many different toasted sandwiches that I can eat.

Damned! Where is my sandwich-toaster. I know i own...

2006-01-31T14:16:00.000Z

Damned! Where is my sandwich-toaster. I know i own one. This evening i'll have a banana, chocolate, cheese sandwich or so :-)

But I don't think, that transvestism is like a sandwich toaster. Cause you don't be a toaster if you don't toastes. But we all are trannys if we don't dress. You can see it at the websites.

It's more than a oldtimer-car. You don't drive them often, but you are one of only a few people who are so crazy, to drive a car which is loud, which need more petrol than normal cars and where all spares are much more expensive than normal. You have anytime anything to do with your car. You have to wash it, polishing ist - to be perfect on the day you drive next time. You drive it only when the Day is perfect, and most at events with other Oldtimer-Fans. If you drive out, you love it, when all eyes on your car and you love the Feeling.

You are an oldtimer driver anytime but most time you drive your normal car.

(however Bex, your analogy does deserve a prize fo...

2006-01-31T13:59:00.000Z

(however Bex, your analogy does deserve a prize for best thought out)

Actually Kath.. I was thinking more this

In the end, transvestism is just like a sandwich t...

2006-01-31T13:22:00.000Z

In the end, transvestism is just like a sandwich toaster. You know, you just forget you've got one. And it just sits there on the top of the cupboard collecting a layer of greasy fudge. And even if you do see it you just assume it's broken, you think if it's working I'd be using it all the time, but you don't and it just sits there. Then one day, you get an overwhelming desire for toasted sandwiches, you know? And you get it down and it works, and you can't believe it, you know? And then you make every kind of toasted sandwich there is, you have toasted sandwich parties. You make Marmite and cheese, chocolate and pilchards, banana and acorns. And then as quickly as the desire comes, it just goes. And then you put the toaster sandwich maker away. And, you know what? You don't miss it. What I'm saying is 'Don't hide the toasted sandwich maker away, use it regularly and you'll get the most out of it'.

Hmmm... I don't really like sweet pickles, but I w...

2006-01-31T13:19:00.000Z

Hmmm... I don't really like sweet pickles, but I will eat them on special occasions (much less often than I dress, mind you).

However, your analogy is easier to remember Steph, so I'll use it next time I am imagining a scenario where I'm out to friends and they actually ask me to explain my trannying! :P

(however Bex, your analogy does deserve a prize for best thought out)

Continuing the Branston theme...If you love pickle...

2006-01-31T13:06:00.000Z

Continuing the Branston theme...

If you love pickle, then after eating everyday for a while, you fancy a change or a rest.

But when you can't have Branston pickle (or any substitute variety), that's when you REALLY want it.

Being a tranny is a bit like that. Except it's less pickely and has much better clothes involved.