tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post112172522577646561..comments2007-04-27T15:16:28.027+01:00Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01046573566773689909noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1122286039348389152005-07-25T11:07:00.000+01:002005-07-25T11:07:00.000+01:00Sorry to be anonymous, just on holiday in Hungary in an internet cafe and being the Wilma Flintstone of technology I can't seem to get this blogging thing. By the way I'm Melinda. Don't limit your options. You can't legislate for love. It just happens. I fell in love with my wife at first sight and it was mutual. The trannie thing (and it's a long story) just had to be accommodated and it has been because she loves me. OK, we have rules because all relationships have rules and compromises. The rules can be made to be fun as well. But I dress as I want around her, we go shopping together. I don't go to clubs because I can't ( I live in the Middle East!) but next time I'm in England I promise I'll be there! All I'm saying is good luck, I love the site and I hope you find somebody.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121996059908407212005-07-22T02:34:00.000+01:002005-07-22T02:34:00.000+01:00Becky: Is there even a remote possibility that we are coming into our own, desirable human beings that have so much to offer?? Gotta believe it is so, we've languished too long in the shadows.. girl, you're remarkable. I am lucky, I have an open minded wife who has a good idea of what this all means... She's out there for you, hon, believe me...<BR/>Donnadonnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14419840954637179003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121869635023686532005-07-20T15:27:00.000+01:002005-07-20T15:27:00.000+01:00Oh bless!Karol Crosshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17726587937266533830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121807536599214182005-07-19T22:12:00.000+01:002005-07-19T22:12:00.000+01:00Ah Karol.. but you are a nice nicheJoannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10640958008859225400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121805750519723532005-07-19T21:42:00.000+01:002005-07-19T21:42:00.000+01:00IMHO Becky neither voice is totally wrong, but in all this what approach makes you feel comfortable with yourself? And just go with it.<BR/><BR/>"One says...<BR/><BR/>"What the hell do you think you're doing going out dressed like this? You're running away from reality.""<BR/><BR/>"Reality is in the perception of the beholder." - that's wot I say!Rachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14926859643680802829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121803017849701742005-07-19T20:56:00.000+01:002005-07-19T20:56:00.000+01:00“<I>I need any future partner to see this part of me first</I>”<BR/><BR/>Spot on Becky. I must admit I was shocked that someone actually reads my midnight musings but I'm glad you did.<BR/><BR/>I've been out with a girl who loved and lusted after Karol so I know it can happen. But as a result I now can't even imagine attempting to meet someone as a guy. I think that’s one of the reasons why I seem to be out all the time these days [as Karol].<BR/><BR/>But the side effect is that I'm constantly coming up against other peoples preconceptions (hence my diary piece). I think its quiet understandable that people might think I'm gay, it's when they don’t believe me when I tell them otherwise that I get frustrated.<BR/><BR/>One of my female friends summed it up when she pointed out "you're a niche". And finding someone who’s interested in a niche is always going to be a challenge.Karol Crosshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17726587937266533830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121797837894641962005-07-19T19:30:00.000+01:002005-07-19T19:30:00.000+01:00Actually the voice I really hate is external. Its the attractive young girls saying "Oh wow, you look really good as a woman", but never saying "Can I get your phone number?".<BR/><BR/>And I was really offended when a girl I was chattin to, en femme, asked if I was gay. "No offence" just doesn't cut it!<BR/><BR/>But it does make us happy doesn't it? Doesn't it? Tricky isnt it?Pandoranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121797624464101552005-07-19T19:27:00.000+01:002005-07-19T19:27:00.000+01:00complete random stranger here but I currently know 3 t2f relationships that are ongoing. It can happen *grin*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121772368528831452005-07-19T12:26:00.000+01:002005-07-19T12:26:00.000+01:00How could there not be someone out there that wants to love you unconditionally? Becky and all....<BR/><BR/>Keep the faith and never rule anything out.... Voice 2 is the one to listen to.Cathii Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03199907804621618221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121767435651015042005-07-19T11:03:00.000+01:002005-07-19T11:03:00.000+01:00Oooo yes...the voices. Don't I know those.<BR/><BR/>At the end of the day though, I think you need to listed to voice two, as you are.<BR/><BR/>At least your Voice One doesn't say, as mine does, "You're fackin weird buddy!" But I know that I am what I am and that I'm not complete unless I dress-up and get to express my feminine interests...even Voice One acknowledges that I am trangendered and that there's nothing weird about that aspect of me.Dee Feminahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04672909586062335527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121731043308773962005-07-19T00:57:00.000+01:002005-07-19T00:57:00.000+01:00Keep the faith. <BR/><BR/>Admittedly Miss C is fairly unique (that's the polite way of putting it) but you'd be surprised I think about the number of women out there that probably wouldn't have too great a problem with things, if they know everything from the get go.<BR/><BR/>And as with anything, if it does happen it'll be when you least expect it and somewhere completely unexpected. I think the whole socialising 'off-scene' is a great idea, as to be frank you ain't gonna meet Ms. Right at TX etc.<BR/><BR/>Gay clubs are safe havens for women and women who go to gay clubs usually have something about them. So I reckon you could be on a winner.Kathttp://spaces.msn.com/members/katsydneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121728895112185462005-07-19T00:21:00.000+01:002005-07-19T00:21:00.000+01:00I have been wondering about this with you... no offence... and the whole gay club thing.<BR/><BR/>But there really is no reason why you can't meet someone. Yeah there will be conditionality and restrictions but you get that in any relationship with a woman.<BR/><BR/>And there is some truth in the advice siobhan gives to just sticjk your tongue down the throat of your love interest... after all she's probably as nervous and insecure as you.<BR/><BR/>And the dressing thing needn't be a huge issue in a relationship... I've had long term relationships in which dressing became part of things.eeorehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11423019781186814099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121728847430800162005-07-19T00:20:00.000+01:002005-07-19T00:20:00.000+01:00Siobhan,<BR/><BR/>You stuck your tongue down a guy's throat and met Kath as a result?<BR/><BR/>Brain has now melted trying to work this out.Selinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06102884253804652838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12075435.post-1121726085489074522005-07-18T23:34:00.000+01:002005-07-18T23:34:00.000+01:00<I>You're never going to meet a girl if you look like this, they're not looking for trannies.</I><BR/><BR/>No, they don't. But at the same time, no-one <I>really</I> knows what we are hon. And in all honesty, being a trannie is only a <I>tiny</I> part of who Becky is.<BR/><BR/>And if you get desperate, stick your tongue down a guy's throat. That's how I met Kath.<BR/><BR/>(I reserve the right to delete this)Siobhan Curranhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09838174307202481837noreply@blogger.com